Lesbian Dating Agency – a Great Resource for Women Seeking Women
A well established lesbian dating agency receives about 1000 visitors a day with the sky rocketing number of lesbians in the world today. A few years back, admitting that you are a woman lover when you are a woman yourself would subject one to cultural punishments. Even the public criticism and stigma was a punishment enough to make a lady denounce her sexual orientation. Nowadays, there are very many women seeking women publicly with no apologies to make whatsoever. The world is becoming a more liberal place with even laws protecting lesbians and homosexuals. They have a right to choose who they prefer to love and who they want to hate. Lesbians feel loved and accepted in an environment which they identify with.
Lesbian dating agency helps women seeking women since it is very hard to find them along the streets and in any social gatherings. They can be only found in lesbian clubs or agencies. Few people declare their interest in fellow women and so social gatherings are not the perfect setting for lesbian to meet and date. There are very strange scenarios where dating between two women have happened in the public. The dating is always done from the underground. In fact most lesbians have confessed to living double lives. They are heterosexuals as well as lesbians. Some habits are hard to break and so they meet other women in privacy but go home to their husbands at night. This kind of double life is very exhaustive but it is done to avoid public criticism.
Women seeking women are usually driven by the need to fulfill their sexual needs. According to a recent survey, heterosexual women have confessed that lesbian dating is comparably more satisfying. This they have attributed to the men’s sexual behavior. Women are put off by the selfishness of men, they will engage in sexual intercourse without caring first to arouse the woman. Women and men are very different sexually. Men are easily turned on while women find pleasure in foreplay. In fact 75% of women reach orgasm through clitorial stimulation. Only women with a G-spot who are more likely to reach an orgasm through penetration. This explains why most women resent guys who are not patient with their bodies. If you have liked an experience with a woman, lesbian dating agency can help you seek one.
I recently read from the media of a case where a husband busted his wife with another woman in bed. The wife upon interrogation complained of her husband’s poor sexual performance. She felt the need to get engaged with another woman who understood her agony. A fellow woman will certainly know your most erogenous zones and will use the right temple to give you a stunning climax. Most men run away from their matrimonial beds due to lack of sexual satisfaction. If your woman is not well aroused, she rarely releases vaginal lubricants. This turns sex from being pleasure to work. Dry sex is painful and depressing and it will be understandable when your woman loathes sex. Some women seeking women have a good cause to get active in browsing through a lesbian dating agency.
Impact of Education on Domestic Violence and Development of Women Through Education
Impact of Education on Domestic Violence and Development of Women through Education
INTRODUCTION
You can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women.
- Jawaharlal Nehru
“Literary education is of no value, if it is not able to build up a sound character.”
- Mahatma Gandhi
Education has been regarded as the most significant instrument for changing women’s subjugated position in the society. It not only develops the personality and rationality of individuals, but qualifies them to fulfill certain economic, political and cultural functions and thereby improves their socio-economic status. One of the direct expectations from educational development in a society is the reduction in the inequality among individuals and that is why Education was included as the basic right of every human being in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. The constitution of UNESCO also directs its efforts to achieve `The ideal of equality of educational opportunity without regard to race, sex or any distinction, economic or social’.
Domestic Violence (sometimes referred to as domestic abuse or spousal abuse) occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate another. Domestic violence often refers to violence between spouses, or spousal abuse but can also include cohabitants and non-married intimate partners. Domestic violence occurs in all cultures; people of all races, ethnicities, religions, sexes and classes can be perpetrators of domestic violence. Domestic violence is perpetrated by both men and women, occurring in both same-sex and opposite-sex relationships.
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is controlling behaviour and includes all kinds of physical, sexual and emotional abuse within all kinds of intimate relationships. The perpetrators of domestic violence or abuse are usually men and the victims or survivors are usually women and children that they know. It includes:
• Punching and slapping
• Kicking and hair pulling
• Biting and pinching
• Pushing and shoving
• Being forced to have sex
• Being beaten or cut with other objects
• Disrespect, neglect and emotional blackmail
• Verbal abuse and swearing
• Being prevented from going out or seeing people – being isolated
• Lying, harassment and putting pressure on you through threats
1:4 women experience domestic violence at some point in their lives and 1:10 will be experiencing domestic violence today
WOMEN VIOLENCE IN DIFFERENT STATES OF INDIA
Over 37 per cent married women in the country were victims of physical or sexual abuse by their husbands with Bihar topping the list. Women in Himachal Pradesh faced less violence at home compared to other states in the country. The latest National Family Health Survey-III found that 37.2 per cent women had experienced violence and cited lack of education as the key reason behind their woes. “Women with no education were much more likely than other women to have suffered spousal violence. However, spousal abuse also extends to women who have secondary or higher secondary level education, with 16 per cent reporting abuse,” the survey said.
The survey showed that countrywide more women face violence in rural areas (40.2) as compared to those in the urban areas (30.4).
In Bihar, women in urban areas fared worse than those in rural areas. While 62.2 per cent underwent the trauma in urban areas, it was 58.5 per cent women in villages.
It is followed by Rajasthan (46.3) Madhya Pradesh (45.8), Tripura (44.1), Manipur (43.9), Uttar Pradesh (42.4), Tamil Nadu (41.9), West Bengal (40.3) and Arunachal Pradesh (38.8).
Among the metros, the fairer sex was better off in Delhi (16.3) and Mumbai (19.5) recorded relatively low percentage as compared to Chennai (40.6) and Kolkata (26.7).
Nearly, 17 per cent women in Goa have experienced violence, with 17.2 women in rural areas at the receiving end as compared to 16.4 per cent women in urban areas.
In Chhattisgarh, a total of 30 per cent women suffered at the hands of their husbands, while in Jharkhand, the figure was 37 per cent. About 40.8 per cent women in Jharkhand villages found the going tough as compared to 24.6 per cent in the urban areas.
In the hill state of Uttarakhand, nearly 28 per cent women experienced violence, with those in villages (29.8) fared worse than their urban counterparts (22.8). After Himachal Pradesh, women fared relatively better in Jammu and Kashmir (12.6), Meghalaya (13.1), Nagaland (15.4), Sikkim (16.5) and Kerala (16.4).
Other states where women find themselves vulnerable are Assam (39.6), Arunachal Pradesh (38.8), Orissa (38.5), Maharashtra (30.7), Andhra Pradesh (35.2), Haryana (27.3), Gujarat (27.6) Punjab (25.4), Mizoram (22.5) and Karnataka (20).
CRIME AGAINST WOMEN IN INDIA
· One crime against women every three minutes
· One rape every 29 minutes
· One dowry death case every 77 minutes
· One case of cruelty by husband and relatives every nine minutes
· Once suicide every 240 minutes.
Source: National Crime Records Bureau
CHILD VIOLENCE
Children are the nation’s assets. A happy child will make his/her home and the country happy. The future of any country depends upon the right upbringing of its children, for which a congenial environment and adequate opportunities for wholesome development are essential.
According to UNICEF’s “The State of the World’s Children,” report for 2006, one-third of the world’s children lack adequate shelter, 31% lack basic sanitation and 21% have no access to clean, potable water. Illness, malnutrition, and premature death are common when children lack the most basic protection.
A government commissioned survey has found that more than 53 per cent of children in India are subjected to sexual abuse, but most don’t report the assaults to anyone.
The survey, released last April and which covered different forms of child abuse physical, sexual and emotional as well as female child neglect, found that two out of every three children have been physically abused.
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Parents and relatives, persons known to the child or in a position of trust and responsibility were mostly found to be the perpetrators of child sexual abuse in the country. According to the women and child development ministry-sponsored report, which assumes greater significance in the backdrop of the Nithari killings that brought into focus the issue of children’s safety, those in the age group of 5-12 years reported higher levels of abuse.
While releasing the survey, Women and Child Development Minister Renuka Chowdhury said, “Child abuse is shrouded in secrecy and there is a conspiracy of silence around the entire subject. The ministry is working on a new law for protection of children’s rights by clearly specifying offences against children and stiffening punishments.”
The survey carried out across 13 states and with a sample size of 12,447, revealed that 53.22 per cent of children reported having faced one or more forms of sexual abuse, with Andhra Pradesh, Bihar, Assam and Delhi reporting the highest percentage of such incidents. In 50 per cent of child abuse cases, the abusers were known to the child or were in a position of trust and responsibility and most children did not report the matter to anyone.
The survey, sponsored by WCD ministry and carried out by the NGO Prayas in association with UNICEF and Save the Children, found that more than 50 per cent children were subjected to one or the other form of physical abuse and more boys than girls were abused physically. The first-ever survey on child abuse in the country disclosed that nearly 65 per cent of school children reported facing corporal punishment beatings by teachers mostly in government schools.
Of children physically abused in families, in 88.6 per cent of the cases, it was the parents who were the perpetrators. More than 50 per cent had been sexually abused in ways that ranged from severe such as rape or fondling to milder forms of molestation that included forcible kissing.
The study also interviewed 2,324 young adults between the ages of 18 and 24, almost half of whom reported being physically or sexually abused as children. When it comes to emotional abuse, every second child was subjected to emotional assault and in 83 per cent of the cases, parents were the abusers.
Children living with domestic violence may:
• Express behavioural problems.
• Be more likely to truant or have difficulties at school.
• Turn to alcohol or drugs.
• Self-harm or attempt suicide.
According to the NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) of Children living with domestic violence:
Ø 100% are emotionally abused.
Ø 48% are psychologically abused.
Ø 26% are physically abused.
Ø 13% are accidentally injured.
Ø 7% are sexually abused.
Recent figures from the International Labour Organisation (ILO) show that:
v Globally, 1 in 6 children work.
v 218 million children aged 5 – 17 are involved in child labour world wide.
v 126 million children work in hazardous conditions.
v The highest numbers of child labourers are in the Asia/Pacific region, where there are 122 million working children.
v The highest proportion of child labourers is in Sub Saharan Africa, where 26% of children (49 million) are involved in work.
DEVELOPMENT OF WOMEN THROUGH EDUCATION
Education is the process of instruction aimed at the all round development of boys and girls. Education dispels ignorance. It is the only wealth that cannot be robbed. Learning includes the moral values and the improvement of character and the methods to increase the strength of mind.
Once the first Prime Minister of India, Jawaharlal Nehru said, “you can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women”. This is absolutely true. Woman of any nation is the mirror to its civilization. If women enjoy good status it shows that the society has reached a level of maturity and sense of responsibility while a decadent image conjures up if the opposite is true. The story of Indian women is as old as the history of Indian civilization.
Kumud Sharma of the Centre for Women’s Development Studies in New Delhi traced the correlation between education and domestic violence to patriarchal attitudes. “Educated women are aware of their rights,” she said. “They are no longer willing to follow commands blindly. When they ask questions, it causes conflicts, which, in turn, leads to violence. In many Indian states, working women are asked to hand over their paycheck to the husband and have no control over their finances. So, if they stop doing so or start asserting their right, there is bound to be friction.”
Female Literacy in India
According to last census held in 2001, the percentage of female literacy in the country is 54.16%. The literacy rate in the country has increased from 18.33% in 1951 to 65.38% as per 2001 census. The female literacy rate has also increased from 8.86% in 1951 to 54.16%. It is noticed that the female literacy rate during the period 1991-2001 increased by 14.87% whereas male literacy rate rose by 11.72%. Hence the female literacy rate actually increased by 3.15% more compared to male literacy rate.
WOMEN UNIVERSITIES IN INDIA
Ø Andhra Pradesh
Sri Padmavati University, Tirupati
Ø Delhi
Lady Shri Ram College for Women, Lajpat Nagar
Ø Maharashtra
SNDT Women’s University, Mumbai
Ø Rajasthan
Banasthali Vidyapith, Banasthali
Ø Tamil Nadu
Stella Maris College, Chennai
Women’s Christian College, Chennai
Madura College, Madurai
It is necessary to establish some more universities and colleges for women in India. Education is a solution for any type of problem in the society. Education gives strength, power and character. Education helps to improve economic position also in the society.
The number of women job seekers has increased from 99.3 lacs in 1999 to 106.1 lacs in 2004. Thus the percentage of women job seekers to the total job-seekers has also increased from 24.6per cent in 1999 to 26.2per cent in 2004.
Table 1: Number of Women Job Seekers
Year
Number of Women (in lacs)
Percentage to total
1999
99.3
24.6
2000
104.5
25.3
2001
108.8
25.9
2002
106.0
25.9
2003
107.5
26.0
2004
106.1
26.0
Number of Educated Women Job Seekers as on December 2004 was 7537.7 thousand. Educated Women at the end of 2004 accounted for 25.8per cent of the total educated job-seekers.
Table 2: Number of Educated Women Job Seekers
Year
Number of Women
Percentage to total
2000
7911.7
27.1
2001
8525.6
28.1
2002
7921.4
26.8
2003
8032.4
26.6
2004
7537.7
25.8
Vision of National Commission for Women
Dr.( Miss. ) Girija Vyas took over as Chairperson of the National Commission for Women on 16th February, 2005.
The Indian Women of Today Culturally rooted, Globally oriented Healthy, Educated, Self Reliant Secure in her Home and Safe Outside With Access to all the Rights of a Citizen With Opportunity to Contribute in all walks of life.
MODERN INDIAN WOMEN
The status of women in modern India is a sort of a paradox. If on one hand she is at the peak of ladder of success, on the other hand she is mutely suffering the violence afflicted on her by her own family members. As compared with past women in modern times have achieved a lot but in reality they have to still travel a long way. Their path is full of roadblocks. The women have left the secured domain of their home and are now in the battlefield of life, fully armored with their talent. They had proven themselves. But in India they are yet to get their dues. The sex ratio of India shows that the Indian society is still prejudiced against female. There are 933 females per thousand males in India according to the census of 2001, which is much below the world average of 990 females. There are many problems which women in India have to go through daily. These problems have become the part and parcel of life of Indian women and some of them have accepted them as their fate.
FIRST WOMAN OF INDIA
Women had played an important role in the Modern World. Here are some of the most successful & first women of the world, who lead a Nation, a Party, a State, etc.
· First woman President of Indian National Congress — Annie Besant (1917)
· First Indian woman President of Indian National Congress — Sarojini Naidu (1925)
· First woman Ambassador from India — Vijay Lakshmi Pandit (to USSR from1947-49)
· First woman Governor of an Indian State — Sarojini Naidu (UP from 1947-48)
· First woman Minister of an Indian State — Vijay Lakshmi Pandit (UP)
· First Mayor of Delhi — Aruna Asif Ali (1958)
· First woman Central Minister — Rajkumari Amrit Kaur
· First woman Film star to be a member of Rajya Sabha — Nargis Dutt
· First woman Chief Minister of an Indian State — Sucheta Kriplani (UP from 1963-67)
· First woman Prime Minister of India — Indira Gandhi (1966-77 & 1980-84)
· First woman Speaker of an Indian State — Shano Devi
· First woman winner of the Bharat Ratna — Indira Ghandi (1971)
· First woman Judge of the Supreme Court — Justice M Fatima Bevi (1989)
· First woman Chief Justice of a High Court — Leila Seth (CJ of Himachal Pradesh 1991)
· India’s officially recognized billionth citizen — Aastha (Born on May 11, 2000 at ND)
CONCLUSIONS
Indian women have mastered anything and everything which a woman can dream of. But she still has to go a long way to achieve equal status in the minds of Indian men. The desire of Indian women can be best summed up in the following lines of ‘Song of an African Women’:
I have only one request.
I do not ask for money
Although I have need of it,
I do not ask for meat . . .
I have only one request,
And all I ask is
That you remove
The road block
From my path.
Educate all the children in the family. Education is the most powerful instrument for the development of women and children in the society.8th March is observed as International Women’s Day. It is necessary to celebrate International Women’s Day every year in a grand manner. Our present president Pratibha Patil is also a woman. It is the power and credit of woman. It is also very important to celebrate Children’s Day on November 14th and Mother’s day.
Reference:
1. National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. (2001). The National Reading Panel: Reports of the Subgroups.
2. UNESCO Institute for Statistics: Literacy rates, youth (15-24) and adult (15+), by region and gender (September 2006 Assessment).
3. Heilbroner, R. L. (1995) Visions of the future: the distant past, yesterday, today,
and tomorrow (New York: Oxford University Press).
4. Child and Women Development Report, (2006), Ministry of Women and Child
Development, Government of India, New Delhi.
5. National Family Health Survey, (2006), Government of India, New Delhi.
6. National Crime Records Bureau, (2007), Government of India, New Delhi.
7. Census of India, (2001), Government of India, New Delhi.
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Those Hot Women!
Hey Doc:
I was really hoping to find a female in this category to get their input, but it seems to me that the more attractive women (ridiculously gorgeous) will always treat the guy they are dating like crap. My friend claims always to have that problem and feels the need to dump them. What do you think? It can’t be as simple as that these women can pretty much get what they want so they always push their luck?
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Hello!
I know exactly what you’re saying here. Yes, it SEEMS like that to us guys because we’re looking at it from our own perspectives – our own needs.
Consider this: if you tried to pull some of this crap with your buddies; what would happen? They’d start by questioning your manhood and eventually just dump you as a friend. That’s because it’s not only unreasonable, it’s rude.
However, we guys tend to put up with it from beautiful women! That’s a tragic mistake however.
Men and women bring different assets to the table. It’s not exactly “fair”, but it is the reality of life. Women bring their looks (and if you’re smart) their skills. Frankly, very few guys worry about the latter and focus on the former. Men on the other hand bring their power which translates outwardly in many different ways – the way our friends treat us, our earning power, our “prestige” and many other ways.
What’s particularly unfair about this is that as you get older, your power-base continues to grow. With women, their attributes fade over time. A “10″ in her 20′s will drop to a “5″ or a “6″ in her 40′s. She knows that and has to work quickly to hook a guy that is a “10″ in her eyes as early as possible. That’s not my rule by the way – it was here when I arrived! It’s also one of the main reasons that younger women are fascinated with older men!
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Here’s why beautiful women act this way: they’re giving you what I call the “Pre-Test”. It’s a chance for them to see if your power-level is above, at, or below theirs. Since beautiful women have a much higher asset-value than their less-attractive girlfriends, they want you to bring a much higher power-base with you. All of these challenges are about proving that’s who you are.
Here’s an interesting aside to this discussion: many less-attractive women mistakenly think that by challenging you in similar ways, they will appear more attractive! Women even talk about how “men want a challenge”. They are totally wrong however. If their looks don’t match their challenges, we’ll just dump them entirely and move on as being too much maintenance – which they are.
Thus, it’s imperative that you establish that power-base immediately from the moment you approach a woman. There are many ways to do this from using a cocky-funny type approach to neg-hits (like “Hey, those are nice shoes, my grandmother has a pair just like them!”) to an aire of disinterest. You also need to call on these tools as the relationship matures because she’s going to Test you far more often – and for far longer than a less-attractive woman.
You know that women go for “jerks” right? This is one of the most important reasons why they do so! An apparent jerk seems to move in his own direction at his own speed. This signals power. Likewise, women (not men!) want a challenge, and the challenge of taming the “bad boy” is just too irresistable!
All women will give all men they are interested THE Test. This is a big, emotional – and artificial – situation created early-on in the relationship (usually within a month, but no more than two) that is designed to specifically and clearly establish the power-base within the relationship. Most guys; being the problem-solvers that we are, will try to deal with the issue of The Test – not handle it as a Test. This means we’ve failed – and lost our power-base to boot.
The wise dude will always deal directly and specifically with The Test as a Test instead; thus, firmly establishing a greater power relationship with the woman.
This is somewhat complicated at first to grasp, and I’ve only scratched the scratch of this important topic. I encourage you to read my books “Being a Man in a Woman’s World I & II” for complete understanding of The Test, the Mini-Test and the Pre-Test.
The bottom line is this: don’t fault beauties for using these tools. Women have evolved over the millennia to have these (and frankly, many more) tools to establish their own places in relationships. Instead, learn them and more important; learn how to deal with them, and you’ll have some incredible, beautiful women that fall in love with you all the time.
That’s what these women really want. If you can pass their Tests easily, they feel safe, secure and will give you just as much love and respect as women of lesser looks.
Best regards…
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The People of Paradise: The Leaders of the People of Paradise [Islamic View]
(i) The Leaders of the Men
A number of the Sahaabah, including ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib, Anas ibn Maalik, Abu Hudhayfah, Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah, and Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri reported that the Messenger (saw) said, “Abu Bakr and ‘Umar will be the leaders of men of Paradise from the earlier and later generations.” [Silsilat al-Hadith as-Saheehah, 12/487, no. 824]
(ii) The Leaders of the Youth
at-Tirmidhi, al-Haakim, at-Tabaraani, Ahmad and others reported that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri said, that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “Hasan and Husayn are the leaders of the youth of Paradise”. This is proven by so many reports that reach the level of tawatur. [see also the narration from Hudhayfah and from 'Abdullaah ibn 'Umar in Ibn 'Asaakir - Silsilat al-Hadith as-Saheehah, no. 797]
(iii) The Leaders of the Women
The true female leader is the one with whom her Rabb is pleased and whose deeds He accepts. The best women are those who attain the Paradise of delights. The women of Paradise are of different levels, and the Messenger (saw) told us about their leaders:
“The Messenger of Allah (saw) drew four lines and said, “Do you know what these are?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said,“The best women of Paradise are Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid, Faatimah bint Muhammad, Maryam bint ‘Imraan and Aasiyah bin Muzahim, the wife of Fir’awn” [Silsilat al-Hadith as-Saheehah, 4/13, no. 1508, from Ahmad at-Tahhaawi, al-Haakim from Ibn 'Abbaas, saheeh]
Maryam and Khadeejah are the best of the four - “The best of its women is Maryam and the best of its women is Khadeejah” [from 'Ali in al-Bukhaari, Kitaab Manaaqib al-Ansaar, Fath al-Baari, 7/133] – and Maryam is the “First Lady” – “The leaders of the women of Paradise, AFTER Maryam bint ‘Imraan will be..” [Silsilat al-Hadith as-Saheehah, 3/410, no. 1424, from Jaabir in at-Tabaraani, saheeh]. The reason why Maryam is considered the best of all women is clearly stated in the Qur’an:
“Behold! the angels said, “O Maryam! Allah has chosen you and purified you, chosen you above the women of all nations.” [3:42]
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How could she not be the best of women when Allah has clearly stated that,
“..her Rabb accepted her with a goodly acceptance. He made her to grow in a good manner”. [3:37]
These four women are beautiful examples of perfect, righteous women. Maryam, the daughter of ‘Imraan, is praised by Allah in the Qur’an:
“And Maryam, daughter of Imraan, who guarded her chastity; and We breather into [the sleeve of her shirt/garment] through Our Ruh [i.e. Jibreel] and she testified to the truth of the Words of her Rabb, and [also believed in] His Scriptures and she was one of the Qaaniteen [obedient to Allah]“ [66:12]
Khadeejah as-Siddeeqah believed in the Messenger (saw) without hesitation; she consoled him and supported him in every way. Her Rabb gave her the good news, during her lifetime, of a place in Paradise in which there would be no noise or exhaustion [al-Bukhaari, Kitaab al-Manaaqib, Fath al-Baari, 7/133]
Aasiyah the wife of Fir’awn, despised the power and luxuries of this world and rejected Pharaoh and his false claims of divinity, so her husband tortured her until her soul departed to her Creator:
“And Allah sets forth an example for those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh, when she said, “My Rabb! Build for me a home with You in Paradise, and save me from Pharaoh and his works, and save me from the Dhaalimoon [those that do wrong]“ [66:11].
Faatimah az-Zahraa, the daughter of the Prophet (saw) was patient and forbearing, and feared Allah. She was a branch from the pure tree, brought up by the educator of humanity.
The People of Paradise: The Ten Who Were Given Glad Tidings of Paradise
The Messenger (saw) clearly stated that ten of his Companions would be in Paradise:
“Abu Bakr will be in Paradise, ‘Umar will be in Paradise, ‘Uthmaan will be in Paradise, ‘Ali will be in Paradise, Talhah will be in Paradise, az-Zubayr will be in Paradise, ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf will be in Paradise, Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas will be in Paradise, Sa’eed ibn Zayd will be in Paradise and Abu ‘Ubaydah ibn al-Jarraah will be in Paradise.” [sahih, Ahmad from Sa'eed ibn Zayd, at-Tirmidhi from 'Abdur-Rahmaan ibn 'Awf, Saheeh al-Jaami' as-Sagheer, 1/70, no. 50]
“Ten will be in Paradise: the Prophet will be in Paradise. Abu Bakr will be in Paradise, ‘Umar will be in Paradise, ‘Uthmaan will be in Paradise, ‘Ali will be in Paradise, Talhah will be in Paradise, az-Zubayr ibn al-Awwaam will be in Paradise, ‘Sa’d ibn Maalik will be in Paradise, Abdur-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf will be in Paradise, and Sa’eed ibn Zayd will be in Paradise.” [sahih, Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah, ad-Diyaa, from Sa'eed ibn Zayd Saheeh al-Jaami as-Sagheer, 4/34, no. 3905]
The Books of the Sunnah tell us that one day the Prophet (saw) was sitting at the well of ‘Arees, with Abu Musa al-Ash’ari acting as his gatekeeper. Abu Bakr as-Siddeeq came and asked permission to see him, and the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “Let him in, and give him the glad tidings of Paradise”. Then ‘Umar came and he said, “Let him in and give him the glad tidings of Paradise”. Then ‘Uthmaan came and he said, “Let him in, and give him the glad tidings of Paradise because of an affliction that will befall him” [al-Bukhaari, Muslim and at-Tirmidhi. Jaami' al-Usool, 8/562, no. 6372]
Ibn ‘Asaakir reported with a saheeh isnaad from Ibn Mas’oud that the Prophet (saw) said, “My successor will be in Paradise, his successor will be in Paradise, and the third and fourth will be in Paradise.” [namely, the Khulafaa Rashida] [Saheeh al-Jaami as-Sagheer, 4/149, no. 4311]
at-Tirmidhi and al-Haakim reported with a saheeh isnaad from ‘Aa’ishah that the Prophet (saw) said to Abu Bakr, “You are free from the Fire.”[Saheeh al-Jaami' as-Sagheer, 2/24, no. 1494]
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Simple-design shirt with ruffles silk may decorate your physique. The key point is to check your flavor for shirt design. Even the simple shift could enable you to from monotonous feeling by such applique with different layout style.Several office ladies might choose suite-style shirt. The function is about the restricted spaces between bottoms. Therefore the suite shirt could defend our physique properly. Remember putting on the string of pendant to get noticed the individual disposition in the low-key emotion.Lace shirt with long-style trousers could include sufficient woman perception. Fundamentally, black shirt could be with difficult disposition for female leader. So we might utilize fascinating lace to make the environment a little softer. However, we might not utilize lace design a lot of. On the other hand, it could skip the concentrate of style.What’s more, not all women would favor the medium-style style. So as to rectify such design, we might use shirt to replace the lengthy trousers. The positive aspects of mens casual shirts would be apparent. It may well show up the marvelous legs to attract encompassing eyes.
To the other facet, stylish females could usually favor the purify sense from white. There may be a lot mysterious sense to get nearer for the remarkable ornamental color.Bow with waist-tightening style would be quickly witnessed. The design within the collar with the shirt could be stuffed with functions to allow you to hide flaws across the chest. As a substitute for standing out the chest, it may transfer the general public attention to your cute waist. That may be preferred point for ladies to raise up the self-confidence.It is naturally that white shirt may be splendid decoration for almost any dress. The examine scarf, jacket, or belt skirt, cap-sleeve skirt might be the ideal perfume partners for white shirt. Your fashion concept would be created full utilize of. You may simply remember making use of the difference impact to create particular visual picture. You would get surprised through the amendment of t-shirts in black and white.
How to Win Your Husband Back From Another Woman ? Powerful Tips to Get Him Back
Understanding how to win your husband back from another woman can be the difference between saving your failing marriage and divorcing. Once the initial anger and disappointment over learning of his affair has died down, you have a bold reality to face. Do you try and get him back from her or do you hand him over to her? For most women it’s just not a cut and dry issue. They love their husband and in the big picture there’s a lot more to consider than just what they’re feeling. You two have built a life together and if you want to continue to live that life, you’ve got to get him back. Fortunately, it’s actually not as difficult as you may think.
When you’re considering how to win your husband back from another woman, think about their relationship for a moment. Virtually all men who cheat do so because they feel disconnected emotionally from their wives. They’re out searching for something that once existed in their own marriage. If you and your spouse have drifted apart that could very well be the reason he went looking for comfort in another woman’s arms. As much as you want to scream and yell at your husband right now, don’t. In all likelihood he’s missing the connection the two of you had when you first married. It’s that connection that you need to bring to the forefront again.
Compassion is tough to find when you’re confronted with the knowledge that your husband has been unfaithful. You have to find some within yourself though. Bite your tongue when you feel the urge to lash out at him. If he’s told you he needs to move out or he has already done so, accept that. Show him that you’re emotionally strong and that you’re mature enough to accept that for now, he’s chosen someone else.
You absolutely must stay in contact with your husband if you want to steal him back from the other woman. He’s been your husband for years and this new relationship is clearly one that he’s engaged in on the rebound. Virtually every relationship like this will fail. She’ll either get tired of his emotional baggage or he’ll start to compare her to you and her flaws with outshine her endearing qualities. If you’re still someone who is a part of his life, he’ll look to you for support when that new relationship breaks down.
By the time this happens you’ll be in a much better place emotionally. You’ll no longer feel an incredible overwhelming desire to have him back. The choice to get back together with him will be yours and you’ll decide based on what is best for you, not him.
Are Corporate Women Getting the Straight Talk They Need? Four Secrets to Communicate Your Way Up
We’ve talked and worked with hundreds of corporate women in various types of organizations, functions and positions in order to identify why the best and most successful get that way. It seems clear that the reason that they are successful is because they never seem to lose the desire to keep learning. Not the classroom kind but the learning that comes from trying new things, interacting with their peers, subordinates and other stakeholders.
They are inquisitive and value these interactions as a way to become more successful and achieve their objectives. It’s one of the most important keys to successful career growth for corporate women in the long haul.
Strong and consistent communications and questioning is one particularly of the best ways to learn. Fortunately successful corporate women seem to be better communicators. In reality too often our conversations are superficial and ignore the toughest and most important issues. People may be uncomfortable having these discussions around people and performance issues.
How often have you left a meeting or a discussion with someone and weren’t quite sure what was discussed, what was the agenda or what you are supposed to do now. Some corporate women we know call it “mutual mystification.”
However it’s critical for corporate women to give and receive direct communications; straight talk to help them become more successful. Success depends on communicating honestly and effectively and getting feedback in order to make the right decisions. You can’t lead in a vacuum and the worst management decisions have been made by lack of objective input from others.
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Corporate women are also great multi taskers who are more likely to have had many direct conversations with their children, their children’s teachers and many others who impact the care-taking decisions that most of them have responsibility for in their households. This lifetime of balance multiple projects, priorities and interests beside their own, helps them to focus on the most important issues and to cut through the fluff.
They seem to be less caught up in the official chain of command and have more of an open door policy. They’re more receptive to those who reach out to them. One of the traps that corporate women must avoid is the conflict between the official truth at the top versus the ground truth at lower levels.
In our conversations with people at all levels inside organization, it’s sometimes hard to believe that those at the top and first line workers work at the same place. CEOs can talk about how great a company they have while the workers grip about how unresponsive the leadership is to their problems.
Corporate women can’t manage by staying in their offices and expect to get the critical information they need for personal and organizational success. They should hang out in the trenches with people at the lowest levels to get the real scoop about important concerns, issues and opportunities. Ask those who are willing to speak with you what’s going on, what are they upset about?
Women are also more successful at nurturing and building relationships which should help get others to open up. The most successful corporate women also surround themselves with the best and the brightest. As great employees make her team successful, she becomes successful. The best leaders encourage active growth by their subordinates. They are not easily intimidated by aggressive subordinates. However the failure to have straight talk with all subordinates can have serious implications when it comes to promotions or advancement decisions. Employees can develop an unrealistic view of their performance and capabilities unless there is ongoing conversation and feedback.
People should never be surprised by your personnel decisions if you’ve been straight with them and communicating your feedback on a regular basis. This lack of prior communications can make any performance meeting very unsettling and antagonistic. There’s a reason why some corporate women achieve the results that others only dream about. To reach your goals just keep focused on learning and improve the way you communicate with everyone.
Educational leadership setback, part 1
I lately had the opportunity to participate in an interactive pro development seminar. The guest speaker, Sir Ken Robinson, an identified student and planet well-known specialist on creativity and modernization challenged teachers and the business public in Killeen, Texas and the Killeen Autonomous School Area to take a look at the enlightening techniques in a quickly progressing community. Without doubt, Sir Ken Robinson is a brilliant speaker and a consummate subject matter expert in his field. He was able to relate hard facts about the huge need for education reform while adding an element of humor that made his speak both entertaining and instructive. I straight away ended up being a fan of his.
Some of the key points articulated by Sir Ken include the need for educators to engage in a revolution plainly. He said things are replacing quicker then most persons can grasp. This, in accordance with Robinson, necessitates the need for teachers to think differently and to carefully scrutinize the logic of fundamental ideas regarding human resources and human being capacity. He stressed the importance of tutors to “engage” their students in the studying process.
There is nothing knew about the “engagement concept” with master educationists. They have been doing this for long time. Any genuine tutor who is worthy of being called a teacher comprehends that you gotta engage students in the subject matter being taught if he/she is to have any wish of “educating” students. Though, it was fine and right for Sir Ken to reemphasize that valued point in light of the changing dynamics of our society.
Sir Ken Robinson rightly pointed out that students have access to more data then ever before in history. In addition, they could not perhaps process all of the information the have access to. So, they process the part that is the most amusing and remarkable to them. This is plainly a marvel that educators must rival with. It is accurately the failure to do that that as a minimum in some measure is why students are not studying. Why should they take note in a boring class when there is so lots more interesting and entertaining information that is alternatively accessible to them? Consequently, it is essential to raise the element of “interest” if education is to have any hope of competing with the rest of the colossal info that is accessible to the contemporary student. Tutor’s could only realize that if students are “engaged” in the subject matter.
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Sir Ken is also correct that data itself is not knowledge. Awareness is processed, assessed, and applied information. We’ve a generation of kids that learn more then ever before but a lot of them are mostly oblivious. Why? Since they’ve data though little knowledge. Data, as Sir Ken noted, is “simply information unless you do somewhat with it.” To be educated you must be “savvy.”
Robinson cleverly pointed out that while some will contend the science after the reason behind global warming, few will debate the actuality of global warming. Then he went on to say that that not just causes a crisis in genuine resources, though also in human being assets. His point was that if education this day is to win, we must comprehend the simple ecological conceptions about what makes people do well. What make us do well this day is mostly service and tech based. That is quite different from what enriched persons only just a few decades ago. It’ll be diverse again in the next few tens of years. We could scarcely anticipate what the needs of the planet will be in twenty thirty years. For example, 20 or maybe thirty years ago could anybody have even pictured the need for cellular phones and lap tops that we have today? It is the mission of education to prepare for that extra special change because it absolutely is forthcoming. Education must study to prepare students for the basic ecological notions about what makes persons do well this day and especially in to the future if we are to remain a planet power.
Robison said there appears to be no advance in cultural toleration and understanding when referencing United States’s religious intolerance with Middle Eastern states. Here is where I differentiate with Robinson. Truthfully, I think United States is the most religiously broad-minded country on planet earth and it is the Middle Eastern countries, not the United States, that must learn to have religious tolerance. However, I can agree with Robinson that the impatience itself, regardless of who’s responsible for it, will be an ever increasing threat to USA’s economic prosperity and our livelihood. Sir Ken properly points out the immergence of India, China, and the Middle East as technological giants. The demographics support them over us. They have the youth and we do not. More of their youth is being well educated and prepared for the world we’ll live in tomorrow, in sheer numbers if not percentages, and then we’re. They are able to surpass us if we are not mindful. If they are able to visualize the ecological and economic dynamics that face the world in the next few tens of years, and prepare for it while we fail to do the same, we’ll go the way of the British empire of the past. As Robinson perfectly said, “We are planting trees whose shade we may never see. Drastic change takes time and in an impatient society, for instance ours, is all too often unwilling to give it time. We have to change.
Forms of Domestic Violence and Development of Women Through Education
Forms of Domestic Violence and Development of
Women through Education
INTRODUCTION
However much a mother may love her children, it is all but impossible for her to provide high-quality child care if she herself is poor and oppressed, illiterate and uninformed, anemic and unhealthy, has five or six other children, lives in a slum or shanty, has neither clean water nor safe sanitation, and if she is without the necessary support either from health services, or from her society, or from the father of her childen.
– Vulimiri Ramalingaswami, “The Asian Enigma”
Women constitute almost half of the population in the world. But the hegemonic masculine ideology made them suffer a lot as they were denied equal opportunities in different parts of the world. The rise of feminist ideas has, however, led to the tremendous improvement of women’s condition through out the world in recent times. Access to education has been one of the most pressing demands of theses women’s rights movements. Women’s education in India has also been a major preoccupation of both the government and civil society as educated women can play a very important role in the development of the country.
· India has world’s largest number of professionally qualified women.
· India has largest population of working women in the world.
· India has more number of doctors, surgeons, scientists, professors than the US.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is controlling behaviour and includes all kinds of physical, sexual, economic, psychological and emotional abuse within all kinds of intimate relationships. The perpetrators of domestic violence or abuse are usually men and the victims or survivors are usually women and children that they know. It includes:
• Punching and slapping.
• Kicking and hair pulling.
• Biting and pinching.
• Pushing and shoving.
• Being forced to have sex.
• Being beaten or cut with other objects.
• Disrespect, neglect and emotional blackmail.
• Verbal abuse and swearing.
• Being prevented from going out or seeing people – being isolated.
FORMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
The following are the forms of Domestic Violence:
1. Physical Abuse
2. Sexual Abuse
3. Psychological Abuse
4. Emotional Abuse
5. Financial Abuse
1. Psysical Abuse:
Physical abuse is the most visible form of abuse and most likely (with sexual abuse) to give rise to criminal charges. Injuries include black eyes, cut lips, bruising, fractures, deafness, blindness, internal bleeding, missing teeth, persistent ill health, miscarriages, and injuries to a foetus and death. Injury sites are often concealed by clothing or hair. It can include slaps, shoves, pushing, being thrown across the room or down the stairs, kicking, stamping, strangulation, burns and scalds, being attacked with weapons such as knives, household objects, firearms etc internally as well as externally.
2. Sexual Abuse:
Sexual Abuse in an abusive relationship is another form of violence, control and degradation. It includes rape, sexual assaults (including with implements),enforced prostitution, enforced sexual practices including being forced to watch or engage in pornography.
3. Psychological Abuse:
Psychological abuse examples include “Jeckyll and Hyde” behaviour, preventing contact with friends and families, constant belittling and humiliating things being said, claims that children will be removed if anyone is told of abuse, controlling behaviours, deliberately enforcing dependency, constant statements that the victim is mentally ill etc.
4. Emotional Abuse:
Emotional abuse is an attack on victims’ personality and well being and is often described as worse than physical violence. It may be referred to as “mind-games”. It frequently amounts to the abuser assuming a tight and unhealthy control of all members of the family, which may become increasingly isolated in the community.
Examples include threats of violence to all members of family, constant criticism of the victim saying she is ugly, ignorant or worthless, using the children as ammunition, family life and mood being dictated by abuser (abuser-centric) continual questioning, humiliation in public, playing on community and cultural fears, threats to have the children removed, threats to kill or have deported, threat that the abuser will commit suicide, threats and actual violence to family pets etc.
5. Financial Abuse:
Financial Abuse is essentially the deprivation of and / or the control of money whether earned or benefits.
An abuser may refuse to pay bills or prevent the victim from having any control over the family finances. The abuser may steal money belonging to the victim or children. Essential services such as gas and electricity may be cut off. The mother may be forced to support the children solely on what she can earn without assistance or child benefit if this is claimed by the abuser. An abuser may deliberately spend money on himself or sell the woman’s possessions and family furniture.
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CRIME AGAINST WOMEN IN INDIA
· One crime against women every three minutes
· One rape every 29 minutes
· One dowry death case every 77 minutes
· One case of cruelty by husband and relatives every nine minutes
· Once suicide every 4 hours
Source: National Crime Records Bureau
The main problems of Indian women:
· Malnutrition: India has exceptionally high rates of child malnutrition, because tradition in India requires that women eat last and least throughout their lives, even when pregnant and lactating. Malnourished women give birth to malnourished children, perpetuating the cycle.
· Poor Health: Females receive less health care than males. Many women die in childbirth of easily prevented complications. Working conditions and environmental pollution further impairs women’s health.
· Lack of education: Families are far less likely to educate girls than boys, and far more likely to pull them out of school, either to help out at home or from fear of violence.
· Overwork: Women work longer hours and their work is more arduous than men’s, yet their work is unrecognized. Men report that “women, like children, eat and do nothing.” Technological progress in agriculture has had a negative impact on women.
· Unskilled: In women’s primary employment sector – agriculture – extension services overlook women.
· Mistreatment: In recent years, there has been an alarming rise in atrocities against women in India, in terms of rapes, assaults and dowry-related murders. Fear of violence suppresses the aspirations of all women. Female infanticide and sex-selective abortions are additional forms of violence that reflect the devaluing of females in Indian society.
· Powerlessness: While women are guaranteed equality under the constitution, legal protection has little effect in the face of prevailing patriarchal traditions. Women lack power to decide who they will marry, and are often married off as children. Legal loopholes are used to deny women inheritance rights.
India has a long history of activism for women’s welfare and rights, which has increasingly focused on women’s economic rights. A range of government programs have been launched to increase economic opportunity for women, although there appear to be no existing programs to address the cultural and traditional discrimination against women that leads to her abject conditions.
GOVERNEMNT ROLE TO MINIMIZE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN INDIA
Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India’s National Crime Records Bureau. Despite the scale of the problem, there had been no specific legislation to deal with actual abuse or the threat of abuse at home. Domestic violence, under the new law, includes “actual abuse or the threat of abuse whether physical, sexual, emotional or economic,” a statement from the federal ministry of women and child development said.
“We have been trying for long to protect women from domestic violence. In India alone, around 70% of women are victim of these violent acts in one or the other form,” junior minister for women and child development Renuka Chowdhury told the Press Trust of India news agency. They say a bill alone will not help in preventing domestic abuse; what is needed is a change in mind sets.
In January 1992, the National Commission for Women (NCW), was set up as a statutory body under the National Commission for Women Act, 1990 ( Act No. 20 of 1990 of Govt.of India ) to review the constitutional and legal safeguards for women; recommend remedial legislative measures, facilitate redressal of grievances and advise the Government on all policy matters affecting women.
There are so many government and non-government organizations are working for the benefits of women. Both Central and State governments are continuing so many programmes for the development of women in the country.
DEVELOPMENT OF WOMEN THROUGH EDUCATION
You can tell the condition of a nation by looking at the status of its women.
- Jawaharlal Nehru
Female Literacy in India:
According to last census held in 2001, the percentage of female literacy in the country is 54.16%. The literacy rate in the country has increased from 18.33% in 1951 to 65.38% as per 2001 census. The female literacy rate has also increased from 8.86% in 1951 to 54.16%. It is noticed that the female literacy rate during the period 1991-2001 increased by 14.87% whereas male literacy rate rose by 11.72%. Hence the female literacy rate actually increased by 3.15% more compared to male literacy rate.
Factors Responsible for Poor Female Literacy Rate:
Historically, a variety of factors have been found to be responsible for poor female literate rate, viz.
· Gender based inequality.
· Social discrimination and economic exploitation.
· Occupation of girl child in domestic chores.
· Low enrolment of girls in schools.
· Low retention rate and high dropout rate.
The main strategies adopted by the Government for increasing female literacy in the country include:
1. National Literacy Mission for imparting functional literacy
2. Universalisation for Elementary Education
3. Non-Formal Education
History of Women’s Education in India: Although in the Vedic period women had access to education in India, they had gradually lost this right. However, in the British period there was revival of interest in women’s education in India. During this period, various socio religious movements led by eminent persons like Raja Ram Mohan Roy, Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar emphasized on women’s education in India. Mahatma Jyotiba Phule, Periyar and Baba Saheb Ambedkar were leaders of the lower castes in India who took various initiatives to make education available to the women of India. However women’s education got a fillip after the country got independence in 1947 and the government has taken various measures to provide education to all Indian women. As a result women’s literacy rate has grown over the three decades and the growth of female literacy has in fact been higher than that of male literacy rate. While in 1971 only 22% of Indian women were literate, by the end of 2001 54.16% female were literate. The growth of female literacy rate is 14.87% as compared to 11.72 % of that of male literacy rate.
Importance of Women’s Education in India: Women’s education in India plays a very important role in the overall development of the country. It not only helps in the development of half of the human resources, but in improving the quality of life at home and outside. Educated women not only tend to promote education of their girl children, but also can provide better guidance to all their children. Moreover educated women can also help in the reduction of infant mortality rate and growth of the population.
Obstacles: Gender discrimination still persists in India and lot more needs to be done in the field of women’s education in India. The gap in the male-female literacy rate is just a simple indicator. While the male literary rate is more than 75% according to the 2001 census, the female literacy rate is just 54.16%. Prevailing prejudices, low enrollment of girl child in the schools, engagements of girl children in domestic works and high drop out rate are major obstacles in the path of making all Indian women educated.
According to the Women and Child Development study, 45 percent of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands. India also had the highest rate of violence during pregnancy. Of the women reporting violence, 50 percent were kicked, beaten or hit when pregnant. About 74.8 percent of the women who reported violence have attempted to commit suicide. It shows the importance of education. Educated woman has more strength and power to face the challenges when compared to uneducated woman.
Kumud Sharma of the Centre for Women’s Development Studies in New Delhi traced the correlation between education and domestic violence to patriarchal attitudes. “Educated women are aware of their rights,” she said. “They are no longer willing to follow commands blindly. When they ask questions, it causes conflicts, which, in turn, leads to violence. In many Indian states, working women are asked to hand over their paycheck to the husband and have no control over their finances. So, if they stop doing so or start asserting their right, there is bound to be friction.”
It is necessary to establish some more colleges and universities in India. The number of Residential Schools for SC/ST and BC’s is not sufficient today. So, increase the number of these schools in the both rural and urban areas. Today’s children are tomorrow’s citizens. Take care about future generation. Then only India will become developed country in the future.
CONCLUSIONS
Now we are living in the modern and technological world. Women are also entering in all the fields like men for doing job. Educated women have better opportunity compared to uneducated women in the society. They are facing so many problems in the society. With the help of education and law and order it is easy to escape from those problems. So it is necessary to educate all types of women in the society. Education gives strength, wealth, health and power to the individual.
According to Swami Vivekandanda:
“We want that education by which character is formed, strength of mind increased and intellect is expanded, and by which one can stand on one’s own feet”.
The plight of women in medieval India and at the starting of modern India can be summed up in the words of great poet Rabindranath Tagore:
“O Lord Why has you not given woman the right to conquer her destiny?
Why does she have to wait head bowed,
By the roadside, Waiting with tired patience,
Hoping for a miracle in the morrow?”
References:
1. National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. (2001). The National Reading Panel: Reports of the Subgroups.
2. UNESCO Institute for Statistics: Literacy rates, youth (15-24) and adult (15+), by region and gender (September 2006 Assessment).
3. Child and Women Development Report, (2006), Ministry of Women and Child
Development, Government of India, New Delhi.
4. National Family Health Survey, (2006), Government of India, New Delhi.
5. National Crime Records Bureau, (2007), Government of India, New Delhi.
6. Census of India, (2001), Government of India, New Delhi.
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Step 3 To Leadership Success
Resources; you need them to make your plan successful. Step three of the leadership success system is all about assessing your resources.
Leadership success step 3, ask these questions
- What Resources Do I Have?
- What Resources Do I Need?
Unless you have access to or can obtain the resources you need, you plan will be pretty well useless. If you lack a key resource you will have to change your plan or face failure. If you plan calls for a sky hook – Your not going to get one no matter how hard you pray. The plan must also include the how; how are you going to assemble or source the resources you need. However if the resources are available then the steps to gather them, acquire them or persuade them become part of the plan Here are some things to consider when looking at resources.
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1. Remember you are just one of the resources at hand. Who else can help? Do you have any mentors or advisers? What about a master mind group?
2. Is building a team a benefit or do you just need the loan of someone else s resources, temporary help or out sourcing.
3. Remember K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple Stupid. Simple gets it accomplished far more easily. Look at the steps in your plan. Are your steps too complex and can they be simplified?
4. Cost effectiveness? You can over do it. Yes a backhoe is good at digging a ditch, but if it’s short and shallow and a laborer could dig it in an hour – why not hire the laborer instead.
5. Find, borrow, lease or purchase the items you need? There may be other options as well.
6. Quality? Is it to be a quick and dirty task leading up to a bigger task or goal, or is the task at hand going to be part of your legacy? Does building a monument get you to the objective in the best way? In life perfection is not realistic; sometimes you have to ask is this level of quality good enough?
7. Don’t forget to consider peoples feelings. As with many things in life we will be dealing with emotions and passions. Take a close look at the objective and your intended actions to be taken along the way. You will be judged by the actions you take. The way you want to be judged may influence the resources you decide to use to reach your objective.
In step 3 clearly define
- What resources do you have? and
- What resources do you need?
In step 4 we’ll look at what challenges or obstacles that might come up.