Famous Women: Miss Universe 1977
FAMOUS WOMEN: MISS UNIVERSE 1977
By Alejandro Guevara Onofre
1977 was the year of the Snake in the Chinese Horoscope. Certainly, was a good year for those people who were born in the years 1929, 1941 and 1953.Trinidad Tobago has been known as one of the most beautiful countries in the Third World, but the Caribbean Island is also the birthplace of the first black Miss Universe Pageant in the History. Her name: Janelle Penny Commissiong.
In 1953 Janelle “Penny” Commissiong, the daughter of Venezuelan mother and Trinidadian father, came into the world in Port of Spain, Trinidad Tobago, a country very famous for its music and athletes as Ato Bolton and Hasely Crawford. In the 1960s she moved with her family to the United States.
In New York City, she studied fashion designer at the Fashion Institute of Technology. But she returned to Port of Spain in 1976, year where Miss Trinidad and Tobago, Margaret Elizabeth McFarlane, won the Miss Congeniality Title. Next year, Janelle Commissiong had been selected to represent the Island at the 1977 Miss Universe Competition in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic.
During the Miss Universe Beauty Pageant Miss TT was very popular, but was not favorite for the title. Miss Austria, Eva Maria Duringer, was a big favorite until last second.She looks like Farrah Fawcett, an actress best known for her role on Tv’s Charly Angel’s in the 1970s.Other favorites were Miss Colombia, Aura Maria Mojica, an exotic girl from Cali; and Miss Nicaragua, Beatriz Lacayo Obregon, a spectacular Latin Barbie from Managua. But none favorite did not speak English very well.
Miss Trinidad-Tobago was elected Miss Photogenic 4 days before the final. She was the second black woman to win the award in the Miss Universe History. On July 16th, in the National Theater of Santo Domingo, Janelle Commissiong was awesome in the semifinal and final. It was a very good day for her. Miss Austria did not show the same talent compared to Miss TT. Minutes later Janelle Commissiong was crowded Miss Universe.
Miss Trinidad and Tobago attracted international attention in 1977 because she was crowded as the first black in the chronology of Miss Universe. At the end of the transmission, via satellite, the Trinidadian celebrated the triumph of Janelle Commissiong. Port of Spain was a carnival. Every newspaper had the same story. The New York Times said that “Miss Universe 1977 was a black bombshell”. Certainly, the world did not have a black Miss Universe until 1977.
There were 12 judges: Oscar de La Renta (Dominican designer), Dionne Warwick (American singer), Gordon Parks (American photographer), Roberto Cavalli (designer from Italy), Marisol Malaret (formerly Miss Universe), Wihelmina (designer from the Netherlands) and other personalities. When Janelle was crowded as Miss Universe, Dionne Warwick said “I felt as If I had won”.
After her reign, she had an interview with Joaquin Balaguer, President of the Dominican Republic (a fan of Miss Universe Pageant) in the National Palace. Like Miss Universe, she visited many nations around the world: from Iceland, Argentina, Hong Kong, Peru, Puerto Rico to the United States.
In 1978 Janelle went to Chile, where she was a special judge at the “Miss Beaches of South American”. During her reign, she had been an advocate for black’s rights and the world peace. She wants to meet with Idi Amin Dada, one of the worst dictators of the 20th Century.
Like Roberto Clemente, Mary Eugenia Charles, Marlene Ottey, Billy Ocean and Tim Duncan, She is an icon in the Caribbean…
Women of business: Five Steps to obtain Positive Publicity
Being a women of business, often conjures up the image of a woman wearing a stuffy suit and competing in the corporate big boys club. Her face set in a determined almost hard line dominates her presence. This brings to mind a woman whose sole focus is getting ahead of the curve while leaving everything else in the dust – leading a very unbalanced life. She has forgotten herself and lost herself. For today’s women of business, she can be centered on her own core of being. She no longer needs to lose herself to the outside bustle and hustle and watch her life disappear by. Because a woman of today can center herself and her business, her life, her passions, her family all center around one thing: embracing her passion – what makes her who she is.
For a woman in the business of being successful she will have a well defined PR 2.0 marketing strategy. PR 2.0 consists of social media marketing combined with an SEO press release campaign. Publicity is critical for women in the business of being recognized in their local community and who even wish to expand outside of the local market. Traditionally, publicity was thought of as newspaper articles, radio spotlights, and volunteering on local committees. It does not have to be that hard. Today, women need to have a social media presence on popular networks like Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, and Linked in. Then take a strategically planned PR campaign linked with their social media strategy and presto, the powerful women of today becomes recognized in her local and expanded markets.
Take for example, a female attorney who wants to expand her local market. There are five steps for a woman of business to obtain positive publicity.
First Step: Pinpoint her potential customers. She could do this by asking herself who would want her services.
Second Step: Identify the challenges that face her current and future clients. This can be done using surveys, blog Polls, reading posts in relevant forums, and doing further research in other online venues.
Third Step: Establish core solutions to the challenges her potential customers face. This can be achieved by researching what her competition is providing as solutions. Let those researched solutions be the guide to creating her own products and unique services.
Fourth Step: Developing a well thought out PR 2.0 marketing campaign, using social media and SEO press releases as her main venues.
Fifth Step: Implement, Implement, Implement PR 2.0 Marketing Campaign
The power of an implementing these proven five steps will give women of business the positive publicity buzz that they deserve.
Compensation Resources, Inc. And Christian Leadership Alliance Release The 2009 Compensation Survey Report For Christian Organizations
Upper Saddle River, N.J. – October 30, 2009 – Compensation Resources, Inc. (CRI) and Christian Leadership Alliance (CLA) have released their 2009 Compensation Survey Report for Christian Organizations. This is an annual study specifically designed to provide important compensation data for use by Christian-based organizations. Along with salary and bonus data on 70 jobs, the survey also captured benefit information including insurance coverage, paid time off, retirement plans, turnover, work – life, etc.
The data is separated into the following 8 industrial classifications covering Christian-based organizations:
P Association / Foundation
P Broadcast Media
P Camp / Conference Center
P Christian College / University
P Church / Ministry
P Missions Agency
P Parachurch
P Social Service / Rescue Mission
In addition, the survey data is reported for each position by revenue, employee size, organizational hierarchy, and region. Various statistical measures are reported, such as the average, median, and percentile data for each position.
A key finding is that there is a heavy reliance (more than 80.0% of participants) on the use of published surveys for establishing the market value for their jobs. Merit increases during 2009 to leadership positions averaged 2.4% with a significant drop to 1.5% projected for 2010. It is interesting to note that all respondents provide health insurance, with PPO (61.5%) being the plan of choice.
If you would like to learn more about the 2009 Compensation Survey Report for Christian Organizations, or to order the complete report, please contact Andrew Sellers at (877) 934-0505 x115 or log onto www.CompensationResources.com.
About Compensation Resources, Inc. (CRI): CRI provides compensation and human resource consulting services to mid- and small-cap public companies, private, family-owned, and closely held firms, as well as not-for-profit organizations. CRI specializes in executive compensation, sales compensation, pay-for-performance and incentive compensation, performance management programs, and expert witness services.
Christian Leadership Alliance (CLA) is the best source of information and insights on leadership, management, resource development and governance. CLA is focused on enhancing organizational effectiveness for ministries and large churches. We serve more than 9,000 individual members who are active in over 4,500 Christian organizations.
CLA offers to its members a wealth of resources, including Outcomes magazine published six times annually, the web-based Engstrom Institute Resource Center, leadership training at their Annual National Conference, monthly one-hour interactive webinars, Steward Leadership Summit, Certified Stewardship Professional Program, and twice monthly e-newsletters. In addition to these numerous resources and training opportunities, CLA has developed a strong networking community, demonstrated by its online Membership Directory, Job Market and regional CLA Chapters located in key cities across the U.S.
How to Attract Women – 4 Powerful Attraction Tips Every Man Must Realize
The subject of how to attract women can be confusing at times. Women are pretty good at giving out mixed signals, and as a man, trying to interpret these signals can make you go batty. There are some certain characteristics and signals that a woman will give that can help to alleviate your frustrations, provided that you can pick up on them and use them to make her feel more and more attraction for you.
Here are 4 tips on how to attract women that should make you more confident when trying to read a woman’s signals:
1. Women love to be flirted with, as long as you know how to flirt with her the right way.
So, you might be asking, what is the right way to flirt with a woman? Well, every woman is a little bit different, so there is no one method that will work on ALL women. But, as long as she seems to be having a good time flirting with you, and she is not trying to desperately pull away from you, you should keep on doing what you are doing.
2. Women enjoy the company of a confident man.
You will hear it over and over again, from the mouths of men that are successful with women, and from women themselves. If you want to give your ability to attract women an INSTANT boost, then you must display that you are confident and not act skittish in the presence of a beautiful woman. The trick is, to make her see YOU as being on her level.
3. Women want to be with a man that can challenge them.
Of course, since there are different personality types, some women will run from a guy that challenges them. That’s not a bad thing, though, as you don’t want to attract a woman that you have to tip toe around and be careful of every word that you say. To attract a woman that has her own confidence and can be fun to spend your time with, you want to show her that you can give her a good challenge whenever you want to.
4. When a woman really is attracted to you, she will let you know.
This is where you have to develop the skills to be able to read and interpret a woman’s signals. She will give them out. The only problem is, unless you have an abundance of experience with women, you might not pick up on them right away. And that is when your mind will be filled with doubt and you will question whether or not you should even try to make a move on her.
Put these 4 tips together and just about any guy can master how to attract women. Always keep in mind that your biggest obstacles to attracting women are within yourself. If you make the assumptions that you do not have what it takes and that a woman can not be attracted to you, then what chance are you going to have to attract a woman?
You will be able to discover how to attract women with the power of these 4 tips AND the right state of mind.
Men are not animals, women are not angels
Note: This article was written on 3 Jan 2002!
International year for the empowerment of women is behind us, or so I understand. Why it was there at all, I do not know; nor do I know whether that was the last year for the empowerment of women. One has heard of ‘stooping to conquer’ but ‘cribbing to conquer’? But that seems to be what is precisely happening with our feminists. They seem to be amoung those who think they can have the cake and eat it too!
But before I proceed further I need to introduce myself, lest some FCBs try to dismiss these views as that of an MCP. First of all, let me assure you that I am not an MCP. You’ll find the views expressed here are based on solid facts and not mere opinions. I believe that you are either fair or not fair, there cannot be degrees of fairness. I am fair and expect others to be fair too. Similarly, you can be either reasonable or not reasonable. I am reasonable and expect the readers of this column to be reasonable too. The views expressed here are for the consumption of the fair and the reasonable.
Let me begin by asking one simple question- is there anything like equality, as we understand it, in God’s scheme of things? The answer is, and will remain, a definite NO! Leave alone women being equal to men, are all men equal or for that matter, are all women equal? Then why all this hue and cry for equality of women with men? As Ms Homai Vyarawala (reportedly, the first Indian woman photojournalist) put it ‘if you are a girl, you do not have to behave like a man to be successful’!
But it is in God’s scheme of things that men and women have to be mutually dependent, if only to carry life forward and if only at the basest level of sexual procreation and/or recreation. Of course, every society has its norms, and rules too for that matter, and it is not my farthest intention to question their very purpose. But I would definitely like to ask whether these norms and rules have served the purpose for which they have been created. A realistic assessment of ground realities brings forth only one answer- NO! The urge to remain attractive to the members of the opposite sex is as strong in the females as in the males and if not all, atleast the majority of sexual harassment cases would disappear if there were no social taboos associated with sex outside marriage. And here, I agree, the females are at a disadvantage, but I must add, only because of their ignorance. Those of them who do not know about birth control methods often stand exposed of their escapades and this is what hurts. The educated lot are not bothered and do not seem to have any qualms about tasting the forbidden fruit and sorting out incidental complications with visits to abortion clinics. I am sure I do not have to quote statistics to prove my point here. And it is not a new phenomenon either. Examples abound even in our mythologies. The story of Kunti and Karna being amoung the most poignant ones. Incidently, it is believed that it was Yudhishtira’s curse on his mother, Kunti, for hiding the truth of Karna being the eldest Pandava prince, that resulted in women not being able to hide their pregnancy!
Take sex out of man-women relations and it can be easily seen that all this babble about discrimination of the fairer (?) sex is just that- mere babble! An objective look at the rules, norms and practices in our society will show that our society is definitely biased, and quite strongly at that, in favour of the women folk. For example, when a she-writer writes porn and makes her millions she is complimented for being liberated but when a he-writer uses similar terms he is a bawdy old sardar! When a dream girls and screen sirens have affairs with married men and beget their children there is not a word of protest from the crusaders but when a man talks freely about his love for the opposite sex he is immoral!
To get to more serious allegations of domestic violence. We are all familiar with the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law conflicts and sister-in-law/sister-in-law conflicts. And the causes in both have been traced to the selfishness/ sense of insecurity of the women folk concerned. The mother/sister of the boy not wanting to share the boy’s love with his new wife (and ditto with the wife too in the other direction!), little realizing that love does not get diluted by sharing. Isn’t it surprising that such problems have never been heard of in the father-in-law/daughter-in-law and brother-in-law/sister-in-law contexts? Going further, I seriously wonder why is it that women who profess such love for their children and claim to be the ultimate best influence on them during their formative years (haven’t you heard the familiar line in various child-custody cases in our courts?) renounce their responsibility/ disown him when he refuses to be just mama’s boy?
Suffice to say that the discriminations alleged by the feminists are either non-existant or are of their own creation only. Not that discriminations are not there. But whatever discriminations are there apply to both the sexes. And at times it may be gender based too, because of the human factor involved. But then these discriminations can work in favour of women as much as against them, as they could work in favour of men as much as against them! And what more examples are required than that of an illiterate women lording it over as Chief Minister of one of the strongest patriarchial societies in the north of the country and another woman, in the South, at whose feet even the Chief Minister would prostrate unabashedly, in public display of servility of the worst kind in a democratic society?
Yes, there are plenty of reforms needed in our systems. But as it is, there is no denying the fact that our systems are more female-friendly than could be asked for. And here too there are examples from the real world.
Firstly, when the menace of throwing stones at running trains became a serious issue, particularly in the Central Railway part of the suburban network in Mumbai, it was decided to have wire meshes on all windows. And how did the railway authorities go about it? Not rake by rake, as should be expected. The meshes were first put up on the ladies only coaches in all trains, then on the first class coaches and only in the last phase were the general compartments provided with the protective meshes. Till this date I keep wondering whether the missiles let loose by misguided elements had any sensors fitted on them so that it did not hurt the passengers in the overcrowded general (read, male) compartments.
Secondly, even the Union Finance Minister, while doling out tax rebates, has given an extra rebate of Rs 5000.00 to women tax-payers. The gross injustice of this would be understood only if one realizes the fact that even today it is considered primarily the man’s job to earn the bread for his family (exceptions granted!) and the woman’s is generally an additional source of income. So the only logical thing would have been to give extra concession to single income families or to consider the family income for tax purposes. But no, who will listen to logic when the issue is gender discrimination?
And wouldn’t you be surprised to know that some of the penal provisions in our laws are not applicable to the oppressed sex? And I am not talking about any archaic laws. The Consumer Protection Act was enacted only in 1986. And the only remedy, provided in the Act, to the aggrieved party is to be compensated monetarily for his/her losses. And the Forum/Commission ordering this compensation can only enforce its orders under the threat of arrest. But an archaic law states that women cannot be arrested in cases involving recovery of money. And atleast one of our judges, a male at that, in one of our Hon’ble High Courts, has held that this law is applicable even while enforcing the orders of the Consumer Disputes Redressal Forum, thus effectively making the penal provisions of the CPA not applicable to half the population! In other words, our law gives a free license for women to cheat with impunity and get away with it!
Now tell me, who is the oppressed sex in this country?
All those arguments apart, this rejoinder, to many an article/report appearing in the press these days, would be incomplete if I did not highlight the positive aspects of man-woman relationship. To my mind the roles are both supplementary and complimentary. The need is not there for competition but for understanding. It is said that a house is built of bricks but a home is built of hearts. Working women may be adding to the kitty at home which may in turn help to collect a few more objects of luxury but how much of their heart they can put in to build the home is really a question that every working women has to ask and answer herself. Domestic chores are not petty or demeaning. And if you really thought about it, it is the small things at home that make a world of a difference for everyone in his/her life. The problems of key-hole children (children who come home from school to open the doors of their houses themselves and spent long lonely hours there till their working parents come home tired after toiling in their offices throughout the day, hardly getting any time to spent with them) have been a subject of many serious studies and the results are not exactly encouraging. And what for? Isn’t money saved, money earned? Also is there any limit to human needs? So where will all this lead to? I, for one, believe that to achieve something one must look up at people who are better off than oneself, but to be happy it is important to look at those who are worse off than us. No, there is no trace of sadism, or happiness in the plight of the under-privileged but a certain thankfulness to the powers above for the privileges, in whatever modest measure, that have been given to me. And particularly in this country there are millions who have to go to bed without even having had a square meal through out the day. And there are rulers and administrators who dismiss starvation deaths as malicious propaganda and claim that mango kernels had enough nutrients and so long as there was enough mango kernels for the poor to keep the wolf at bay there could never be starvation deaths! Yes, finally it all boils down to our people in power who find it is easier to cling to power by continuing with the divide and rule policy of the colonisers. War cries based on gender could be yet another way to keep the people at each other’s throats so that they can continue with their own devious purposes.
So, all I can say is, citizens beware! Thankfully, as of now, the majority are not hardliners. Nevertheless, the way fissiparous tendencies seem to be creeping up from everywhere, it is better to be aware and be wary!
Conquering the Female High-Pitched Voice
I wanted the thoughts expressed below to be politically neutral, but upon review of scores of female leaders in both parties – and please try this at home – it’s beyond a doubt, the ladies of the GOP represent concrete evidence that the high pitched female voice is alive and well, painful. While Sarah Palin bashing is so yesterday, she does remain the poster child for this lamentation that Simon Cowell of American Idol fame calls “female pitchy.” While the Republicans also have many low warblers such as CA gubernatorial contender and former EBay CEO, Meg Whitman and Condi Rice, they also have pundits such as Anne Coulter, who shrieks at an amazingly high decibel level. As for the DEMS, Hillary stays low and controlled in the face of continual stress, as does Nancy Pelosi, no matter who is vilifying her. But wait, research shows Hillary was also a high-pitcher until she enlisted the services of voice coach, Michael Sheehan, who has also helped husband Bill, and President Obama, the quintessential master of dulcet tones. (Actually, that would be the late Richard Burton.) And, for the life of me, I cannot understand how and why SO MANY professional female newscasters still pitch at the top of the scale, especially if they get worked up during interviews. The sine qua non of this sound abuse is when TWO women are in heated debate, which many of the cable news networks promote these days.
Apparently, men speak in lower tones because they have ten times more of the steroid hormone, testosterone, than females. It’s also why they have bigger muscles and when they lose some of it, they get “low T,” lose their hair and/or need a little blue pill before a romp in the hay.
But, regardless of sex, both men and women don’t like the sound of high-pitched voices. So, what’s a woman to do, especially if her career includes public speaking? For the most part, women are not fans of chest hair; so additional testosterone won’t cut the mustard.
First off, a woman needs to listen to herself. Record your voice. A high-pitched voice is assumed to be a voice filled with stress, anxiety and low self-confidence. While this may not be the actual case, it is the perception and should be corrected. I own a film and video production company, Zan Media, http://www.zanmedia.com, and I hire “voice over” and “on camera” talent on a regular basis. While most actors are blessed with both good looks and attractive voices, they will also seek out professional coaches to improve their tonal quality. Important techniques include breathing exercises to relax the body and the vocal chords, and repetition exercises using the lowest pitch possible. These exercises can be found online and just about everyone will experience improvement with some at-home practice.
Political candidates offer another difficult situation, especially for first-timers. Suddenly thrust into the spotlight, they are asked to talk at numerous civic and community events, not to mention town hall meetings and prepared speeches. My friend made her way up the political ranks from working many years for elected officials, to becoming one. A year before she ran for her first political office, she joined Toastmasters. Clubs that necessitate public speaking are great training ground, and since everyone is in the same boat, there’s plenty of empathy to go around.
Certainly I am the lucky one, spouting off my complaints and cures herein. Since I am writing this, not saying this, you can’t hear me. If you could, you’d notice all the long, deep breaths I’ve been taking!
Copyright, June 2010
Christine Scioli
All Rights Reserved
Men are From Mars Women are From Venus
Gray mentioned as a preamble to his talk that when his book ‘Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’ had come out he was questioned whether one can make generalizations in terms of the behaviour of men and women. The only response he gave was whether they resonated with what was written in the book and 100% of the time they replied ‘Yes’.
1. The differences between Men and Women are universal. Women all over the world complain that “He doesn’t understand”. “He doesn’t listen”. “Only time he touches me is when he wants sex”. And men all over the world complain that “She doesn’t want to have enough of sex.” (Unless the woman is around 37 years. At this magical age women want more of sex than ever before.)
2. Women like affection from men much more than sex. They want to be hugged. John learnt to hug his wife.
3. Men like to be logical. Women like to share and talk even if there is no point in their sharing and talking. Men need to have an objective. They need to see the point in doing something. They can’t share for the sake of sharing.
4. Men tend to do one thing at a time. Women do many things at a time. Men have a tunnel vision. 95% of their attention is focused on just one thing and 5% on checking of the environment. Women are just the opposite. They are continuously taking in everything that there is in the environment whether it is useful or not.
5. John narrated the incident of his wife asking him to get some milk while coming home from work. He forgets. She considerately puts it down to his thinking of work. She asks him again. Again he forgets. She takes it personally. It’s not that the milk was forgotten but that she was forgotten. Women behave in this manner.
6. Men have their own caves on which the sign states “Please do not disturb.” Men like to retreat into their own world where they feel they are in control. Women also have caves but the sign on their caves is “I need to talk”. When a man asks a woman what’s wrong and she says “Nothing” it really means “Nothing, unless you care to listen and give me an opportunity to talk.”
7. 90% of women go into therapy because they want to be listened to. They want to be asked questions. They want to feel special. Men hate to be questioned. If men want to talk they’ll talk. If they don’t want to talk they won’t. When a man is locked in his cave, the woman thinks that something is wrong with him and goes in and asks questions. This is a wrong move for the woman to make. Men hate to be interrogated.
8. When a woman touches a man she may want to be cuddled. But for a man anywhere he is touched leads to Rome and he thinks therefore that it has to lead to sex.
9. Men want to forget the problems of the day. Women want to remember. A man will say “Forget it, it’s no big deal.” For a woman she will not rest till the problem is talked about. Her response to the man, who wants to just forget about it and not make a big deal out of it, will be “How can you be so insensitive.”
10. Men should never tell a woman how she should feel. In fact if she is unhappy, the man needs to be unhappy with her for a while instead of offering advice.
11. If the man is at a loss for saying anything when the woman is feeling bad then instead of offering advice he could build her up a bit by saying “I know how much you work during the day to make the kids and myself feel happy. It must be very exhausting.” Her unconscious response would be “He understands.” The woman craves for understanding.
12. Women make noises to get attention. Men make noises to signal “Please leave me alone.”
13. To cope with stress, sometimes, women while speaking tend to speak in long sentences and then pause. Men think that the pause is a signal for saying something. Wrong. For the woman the pause is just a semi-colon. Men need to restrain themselves in giving advice.
14. When a woman is upset and a man tries to give a solution 99% of the time her response will be “Yes….but”. When she is relaxed then give the solution. After she has been given the opportunity to talk about it.
15. If a man tries to walk in a woman’s shoes, she will be more willing to understand his point of view. Men tend to expect women to agree with their point of view because they feel it is obviously the best point of view.
16. Men are efficiency oriented. Must do it the easiest and fastest way. Women on the other hand feel that taking the shortest path between 2 points is boring. Women like variation. This is especially true in the bedroom. Men go by the same formula every time while women want variation. Men like uniforms and the same uniform. Men look good in a tuxedo or a suit and that’s it. Every time the same tuxedo or suit. Women like to change their dress; sometimes thrice or even more times in a day.
17. When John’s book ‘Men are from Mars, Women from Venus’ was on the bestseller list for 6 years in a row, John realized how narrowly focused in life he had become. He only gloated about his book being no. 1 on the bestseller list. John was missing the little things of life where his wife and children were concerned. Women are able to see the little things in life and be happy.
18. The more narrow the focus of a man the more stressed he is bound to get. He can’t notice anything else other than what he is focusing on at that moment. Women deal with lots of problems at the same time and the way they cope is to talk about them.
19. Men use their brain sequentially viz. one part at a time. Where women are concerned it is usually the whole brain at once.
20. Women lower stress through talking and sharing. The collectiveness and togetherness which they share is part of their feminity. Men lower their stress by being alone. Women’s attitude is that if we can’t do anything about it then let’s talk about it and suffer together. Men’s focus is on solving the problem. And if they can’t solve the problem then they make the problem disappear by forgetting about it.
21. Men always want to be right.
22. Women, unknowingly sabotage their success. They put themselves down because they want support. Women bond by putting themselves down. For example if one is late for a particular function in the office, the woman will say what an imbecile she is by not catching the right train or missing the connection because of some stupid mistake she made and so on. And other women who are also late will do the same.
23. Or if a woman is having a problem with the computer, she will call the so called expert from the computer department and tell him that she doesn’t know anything about computers and that she is very happy that he has come to her rescue and thereby push the guy way up there. But when he suggests a solution which she tends to disagree with, she doesn’t know how to tell him because if she does it, it makes him come crashing down and he reacts by saying that she has wasted his time. In this case one needs to resort to face saving devices like ‘whatever you have suggested will I am sure help me to figure it out (even if you see no utility in the suggestion).
24. As women more and more enter into the workplace their need to being listened to and understood is not being met. The workplace is efficiency oriented. They are becoming more and more isolated. They have to raise their children alone. Unseen and unheard. And this is causing them to go more and more into depression. The man focusses on work no matter what the problems are that are being experienced at home.
25. Man is efficiency oriented. He needs to feel needed. He needs problems to be solved. If there are no job opportunities or there is no effort called for to do something then the man feels depressed.
26. When women feel nurtured they feel happy. They are happy with the small things of life. Man likes to measure himself against the goal he has set for himself. Men behave like squirrels. They focus on one thing, dash towards it and once they reach there then they turn their focus on another thing and make a dash there and so on and so forth.
27. Men see the news on TV especially after coming home, because the problems they hear about and see make their problems seem that much smaller.
28. John’s soul sings when he teaches. Need to find one’s path and go along it. The fact that one feels fear is because it is one’s path. If it was not one’s path then one would not be so worried about whether one made an impact or not.
29. The truth is I deserve to be the way I am. I need not be bothered to be perfect in order to be loved. Once one lives in an atmosphere of perfect trust the more authentic one becomes, and the more authentic one becomes the more irresistible one becomes. The closer we are to who we truly are the more people will love us. There will always be people who do not love us.
30. Forgiveness is the key. If someone hurts then one needn’t hurt back. As Gandhi said, An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.
31. Women give more. Men want to get more.
32. Women want flowers to be purchased by men. And they should be cut- flowers. So that the flowers die and therefore the men have to go out and purchase them again and again. They do not want the romance to go out of the relationship. Men on the other hand feel that if they have done it once there is no necessity to do it again and again. But women want things and messages to be repeated again and again.
33. Women sometimes give hints viz. On Sunday they will mention that they are getting their hair cut on Thursday. This is to be taken as a warning signal. The hair cut must be noticed. If a woman has to ask how she looks after she has had a hair cut then there is no value placed on the man’s comment. It has to be noticed without being asked. Women put in much more effort in looking good. Men put in more effort in their work.
34. Man wants to be appreciated. Woman wants to be listened to and noticed. Men stress more on what they do while women stress more on their being.
35. Men think that by being flexible they are Mr. Agreeable and that is appreciated by women. Really speaking women want men to take charge and suggest something which they agree on. Mr. Agreeable is boring. The ideal metaphor is to have a man with a plan and a woman with a smile.
36. Sometimes the woman feels that she does everything according to what the man wants. At this point it is necessary for the woman to say “I’ll do it this time your way but next time we’ll do what I want.”
37. Women are always keeping score in a relationship viz. When a woman does anything for a man she always gives herself a point. Men keep score in business. Men need to keep score in a relationship too. They need to do something for the woman so that they too score points from the woman’s point of view.
38. At work the man’s perspective is not to unnecessarily interfere. A man feels that if he doesn’t ask then he is giving total freedom to the woman. But a woman who is a subordinate wants to be asked about her work because silence is taken to mean ‘non-involvement’.
39. Women like the small stuff. Chit-Chat. Occasionally ask some personal questions. The magic words are ‘What else?’
40. To free a man a woman needs to say ‘You don’t need to say or do anything and you don’t need to feel bad.’
41. Listening creates healing.
42. Women by nature give. But when they find that they are not getting anything in return they need to give to themselves. Men have no problem in giving to themselves. Men don’t give enough to others.
43. Men prefer women managers while they learn the job. After learning the job they prefer a male manager.
44. Men sprint faster. Women win the long distance.
45. In men testosterone lowers stress. In women oxytocin lowers stress. Affection, considerateness, being noticed is what produces the oxytocin in women. Therefore men need to learn new skills to produce oxytocin in women. Foreplay is more important for a woman than a man. A woman needs 20-30 minutes of stimulation. A man needs just 2-3 minutes.
46. Women want sensitive men but the danger is that if men become too sensitive then women don’t like it. They want men to be considerate but not to be too sensitive just like them.
47. Don’t try to fix or change your partner.
48. When husband and wife are business partners then there needs to be clear rules. There needs to be a clear demarcated time when no business is talked about.
49. Duty is important but being authentic is more important.
50. Women can be compared metaphorically to the moon. When the moon is full, women crave for sex. When it is half-full, a woman can have it not have it, it does not matter, and when it is a new moon she couldn’t care less.
51. There are different types of sex viz. Healthy, home cooked sex, Ferrari, junk food sex, and Gourmet sex. Once a month one could have Gourmet sex which means bringing in the romance by going out for a dinner and coming home to an atmosphere which slowly climaxes. Whenever he wants sex, and it is a quickie then give it to him. Provided on other occasions there is good, regular homemade sex. In order to arrive at a meaningful understanding one could have 3 candles signifying the 3 types of sex. Either partner finds it very difficult to know the real mood of the other. Depending on which candle is lit and by whom one can behave accordingly. The candle becomes the sign of the mood.
Source : http://management-gurus.blogspot.com/ Author : Vishwalok Nath
March-Month For Women
March is a main month of spring, spring is a very beautiful and lively season which full of flowers and the singing voice of birds. So march is a very month to present women.
Women’s History Month is an annual declared month in the United States that highlights Women’s history contributions of women to events in history and contemporary society. March has been set aside as this month. In India, this month is celebrated in October and corresponds with the celebration of Persons Day, which is October 18. (The UGG Classic Tall Boots feature genuine twin-face sheepskin for refreshing comfort and all classic UGG boots at amazinguggboots.com feature a soft foam insole covered with genuine sheepskin and have a molded EVA light and flexible outsole designed for amazing comfort with every step.)
Other participants not only became determined to begin their own local Women’s History Week projects, but also agreed to support an effort to have Congress declare a national Women’s History Month.
The popularity of women’s ( UGG Nightfall Boots ) history celebrations continues to spread as more people are becoming aware of the contributions of women and girls. A President’s Commission on the Celebration of Women in History in America recently sponsored hearings in many parts of the country. The Women’s Progress Commission will soon conduct hearings to promote interest in preserving areas that are relevant in American women’s history. Some of the groups promoting this interest are state historical societies, women’s organizations, and groups such as the Girl Scouts of the USA..
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How To Improve Your Leadership Skills – Leadership Traits
Have you been always problematic when it comes to leading in your group because sometimes you don’t know what to do? Have you been wondering how to improve your leadership skills so that you would lead more effectively all the time? Don’t worry too much nor lose hope because as long as you wanted to move forward, there are definitely rooms for improvements. Here are some tips on how you can possibly improve your leadership skills in no time:
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Tip # 1: Research
You will surely improve your leadership skills if you will widen your knowledge in certain important things. Through research, you would be able to learn a lot of important stuff about leading effectively that’s why you really need to spend quality time in doing this kind of tip in order for you to see the great results.
Tip # 2: Take Down Notes
If you want to know how to improve your leadership skills, it’s a must that you would take down notes of the things that you will learn from research. It can be a title of the book that can help you with your leadership skills improvement or it might be some tips and techniques in learning effective leading in one group.
Tip # 3: Be Patient And Be Determined All The Time
Knowing how to improve your leadership skills is a must since you lead effectively, your group will surely prosper and you would all attain your goals. Remember that things won’t be easy but if you are patient enough to do whatever it takes, it’s a guarantee that your determination will take you somewhere you want to be.
Follow these tips and you will be surprised that you would notice a drastic change in your leadership skills in no time. I wish you all the best and good luck!
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How Business Networking can Empower Women
In the past business networking has consisted primarily of providing events in meeting places where women could connect with each other and hopefully discover ways to become more successful. Networking for women has really grown and that is good news. Now you can find support networks where you will learn key skills to help you start a business or expand an existing one.
Because women are seldom trained in what it takes to become an entrepreneur, there are always many different places they need to begin on this journey. Let’s just take a look at a few of the things women grapple with when they first decide to become independently employed:
Lack of Self Esteem
Women often under value who they are and what they are capable of achieving. Most of the time this comes from self-judgments created from their early childhood environments, including being raised in a culture where women are devalued in terms of their ability to be prosperous. Many women still live with a co-dependent mentality that says, “I can’t build a business on my own, but I could help my husband do it.” We have to ask the question, “Why am I standing in the way of my own success,” and begin the process of re-education.
Absence of Faith
Fear limits our abundance and keeps us stuck in scarcity. We end up in a vicious cycle of creating causes that produce the exact results we don’t want. The way out is to adopt a consistent attitude of gratitude. Wake up happy for what you have, give thanks for everything that is right in your life, and put your attention on the positive and avoid the negative as if it were a life and death decision. You will begin to build a new belief system from which faith develops as your awareness is raised to a higher level of truth.
Poor Quality Communication
People react to you based on what they sense you feel about yourself as well as what you say. Pay attention to your inner judge and learn to love and accept yourself exactly as you are. In this way, you can become more open and honest in your communications. You also develop a sense of worthiness that attracts positive and supportive relationships.
Just attending the right business networking site can cause you to take action steps that demolish your self-doubt and help you move away from self-sabotage and procrastination. It is very inspiring to be around women who are doing the stuff you can only dream about in the beginning. You will become empowered by their presence, courage as well as learn what steps you need to take to get yourself where you want to go.
You can also learn proven exercises that others have used to overcome common obstacles all budding entrepreneurs face such as fear and a lack of focus. One of the best tactics you can employ when facing a personal block is to learn to breathe properly and ask yourself the right kinds of questions. There are great business networking places for women that will teach you exactly how to do that.